She would be wearing green, it is her favourite colour, and if you were invited to serve her she would also be wearing a heady combination of leather and latex.

She is Mistress DeSade and she is a dominatrix.

Mistress DeSade is a rare combination of wit and charm who uses her stunning good looks not to entrap but to educate. Anyone who sees her knows she could have her way with just about anyone, but chooses carefully who she scenes with.

She is not a hooker with a whip, or a closet sadist using the dominatrix miystique as an excuse to unleash pent up rage on other people. She does not enjoy the quickie session, the one hour scene or the slam bam thank you Mistress Ma'am type slave in for the short haul.

"I don't hawk myself"

"I take people who I want to take, for nothing. I have accepted money for domination services but it is the exception, not the rule," she says, explaining what is her basic philosophy in the BDSM scene.

"I am lucky enough that I do not have to do this for money, it is who I am, it is my pleasure."

DeSade describes herself as a lifestyle player and as she speaks her voracious appetite for reading becomes apparent. This is a woman who reads, who learns, who experiences and then shares with select others all that she has learned.

Originally from the mid west, DeSade moved to the Dallas/Fort Worth area about 6 years ago. She is quiet, very reserved about delving deeply into her personal life. She currently is experiementing with a cyberstop dedicated to the dark arts. Emblazoned on the everchanging landscape that is her site, one can read what is likely DeSade's personal motto ... "No Vanilla"

She is the blonde everyone dreams about, 26, smart, demurely sassy and of the type you would be proud to take home to mother or to meet your friends. She is the epitome of beauty, grace and charm. and if you are lucky enough she will show you that she is a seasoned adventurer in the dark arts with a penchant for crops.

Only 18 years old when did her first BDSM scene, DeSade has gained wisdom through reading and interacting with scene players on all levels. She began her foray into BDSM as a sub and has an empathy for those who need to submit.

Her moniker of choice is based on the Marquis DeSade who wrote an organized study of human sexuality and perversion. "He examined the nature of a woman into submission. His writings are an excellent, and meticulous, examination of the physcological nature of the scene.

DeSade's greatest joy is topping young women. She has a strong preference for female subs, revelling in helping the young woman release the realities of thier own sexuality.

DeSade gets an almost voyeuristic pleasure in a well-played out scene. "I get a rush, a turn-on, seeing someone who worships me so much allow me to inflict upon them almost unbearable pain. They [the sub] would do just about anything to please me. They have a desrie for extreme service, a love of it, and they suffer for me."

She laughs softly when asked to describe her greatest passion in the scene, to offer a word or term which would describe herself. The question likely amuses her as its simplicity is metaphoric for her take on the scene.

"Torturess." The word escapes her lips in a breathless, almost feral growl. "I love men and women who have a real need to suffer."

To hear DeSade say it you become lost in her voice, in her passion for it. It takes one's breath away to hear her describe her greatest love. "I enjoy inflicting pain. There is a heavy responsibility in being a sadist, even a sensual sadist like myself. I have to judiciously inflict pain to keep my sub on the knife-edge of chaos and reality."

And that knife-edge is where the magic happens. "It is a turn-on to see the effect on the sub, as she suffers for me, as the realization of her own sexuality moves from fantasy to reality. It is wonderful to see."

Mistress DeSade owns a well-appointed dungeon and in it, resplendent in her favourite fetish wear of leather and latex, her sub will hear her approach by the staccato retort of her heels. DeSade loves the accrotrements of the scene, the materials of leather and latex in any wearable form, and her footwear. Heels, very high and gracing her scores of shoes and boots.

By this time the scene is set, her sub will likely be tied to her cherished St. Andrew's Cross and her particular fetish for inflicting pain draws people to her who need and desire it. She obliges. She has the sub, naked, open, ready to accept the reality of their own sexuality and need and does her 'worst' on them.

"I like the crop. The sound it makes, the marks it leaves. It is a very personal experience, a good cropping ... it is so simple and yet can be so brutal," she explains. She adds another favoured technique is the bastinado, the whipping of the soles of the feet. "Exquisite," she breathlessly exhales, in describing its effect.

But do not for a moment expect to find anything but a caring and remarkably emapthic woman when meet Mistress Desade.

"I spend a long time working up to a serious session with a sub," she explains. "There are so many nuances which must be explained, put out into the open, and limits have to be tested. By the time I am seriously involved in a scene I have an emotional connection with the sub. And before I take a crop to someone, I want to see that they really want it."

"I have never been accused of going too far in a scene. I take things one step at a time with my subs"

And that attention to detail, that long road to a truly explosive and charged scene is a necessity of being a domme, says DeSade.

"There is one instance which sticks out in my mind. A middle aged fellow was with me and we had been doing the scene and it reached a point of his particular fetish, haircuts. I cut his hair as requested and made a quick comment which hurt him deeply." The nature of his fetish was unknown to her and as she teasingly said his new haircut made himlook like a little boy she saw his spirit break. She found out then the fragile nature of fetishes and that even an innocent action or statement in the rareified air of an intense power exchange can be devastating for an individual.

It was a learning experience for her and she is adamant about putting everything up front before engaging in dominance and submission activities in the dungeon setting. "It gives me a map," she explains, "through what could be an emotional minefield for some."

And it works for Mistress DeSade and the lucky individuals chosen to serve as either her as subs or who are even luckier still to be allowed to aid her in satiating her own particular fetishes.

"These people, men and women, who come to see me go home happy. They are able to better satisfy their partners and they feel better about themselves. They realize they are not alone in their needs and they have a safe place to act upon them. They know they have a responsibilty for their own sexuality."

DeSade is remarkly well spoken on a subject which rises often to the surface in the BDSM community, namely the allegations of abuse at the hands of uncaring, or unskilled tops.

"There are too many out there, who take money for providing BDSM services and accept none of the responsibility incumbent with it. I call it domming for baubles, it really cheapens the spirituality of the scene."

DeSade also thinks it is "bullshit" but is quick to add there is a place for professional domination, she says that "...it is the trailer-park trashy domme on government cheese that needs to go. They are unstable people hiding behind a fetish."

"There are many many skilled women and some men out there who are making a living at this. I think the truly good ones are lifestyle players. People who know the nature of the scene, who recognise the responsibilty one has with a sub and do their best to make the experience pleasurable."

"But you have ask yourself as a sub, how does buying groceries or extravagant gifts for a domme who demands you do it add up to anything but an abuse of trust?"

"I do not abuse subs, I will not abuse subs, really, what player with any sense wants to damage their toys?"

Perhaps it is her own initiation into the scene which sticks with DeSade the most. She sees a need to educate prospective young submissive who are experimenting with their own sexuality that need to be wary of entering into something which could cause harm.

"If you come out of a scene feeling relieved that the scene is over and that you have escaped, the domme likely isn't right for you. While a scene is designed to be therapeutic in many ways, and an emotional release, feeling relief at being set free only means there was something which did not allow you to fully experience the joy of embracing your submissive nature."